Do you feel life has become much more difficult than you expected it to be? Do you think you have drifted away from your goals because life has been unfair to you? Are you disappointed, and sad at how things turned out to be? Do you think you have no reason left to be happy? Well my friends remember, life is not fair to everyone. The question how to find joy during difficult times, has been explored for many years.
At some stage in everyone’s life, an unexpected trail of events tends to suck up away every ounce of happiness, and joy from your life. Sometimes a loss hits you naturally, and withdraws every happiness from your life. It could be another way around as well your negative speculation of life, overthinking, and pessimist behavior can also be the reason for your unhappiness.
You can even trace it back to the ancient Greeks when philosopher pondered the question of what it means to live the good life. You can find discussions of happiness in old Buddhist texts as well. Fast-forward to modern times, and we’re still asking those questions.
“Happiness isn`t about getting what you want all the time. Its about loving what you have and being grateful for it”
There’s no question that we want to be happy again, and again in life. In fact, the Declaration of Independence points out that the “universal right” is the pursuit of happiness. But what is happiness, really? Well it’s clear that we’re talking about an emotion, and a positive one, of course. Some sources define joy, and happiness as an emotional state of well-being defined by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy.
9 Best Ways To Find Joy during difficult times
1. Eliminating interactions
One of the big things is eliminating interactions with negative people which is gigantic. I’ve realized that I’m not really as independent as I used to think I was. I used to think that my thought process was independent, and that I don’t give care at all what anybody thinks, that’s nonsense.
People say that because they absolutely care what people think, and it bothers them. So, they say I don’t give a d_m, but that I don’t give a d_m stuff is almost entirely nonsense you do care, and you care in both ways. You care if people are critical, you care if people are positive, but you also care if people are living positive lives, and they’re motivating you, and that’s a big one.
“Happiness is an inside job. Don`t assign anyone else that much power over your life”
2. Negative people
If you live around a bunch of people that are complaining, taunting, biting you about everything, and they see the negative in everything, those people are the opposite of inspiration like you’re up to your ankles in mud, you try to trudge through life, and it’s difficult.
Over time I’ve learned that these people you just hate, you’re not going to fix them. So, please try to stay away from those people. Don’t forget in parents, affection for each other, and love plays an important part to raise children.
“The lack of one or both parents affirmation leaves some children emotionally crippled”
3. Don’t waste your energy
There are times when I think that I am wasting a significant amount of my energy on someone who doesn’t want to waste any of their energy on themselves, and so managing the community, and the tribe that you’re in making. Sure that you’re a good member of that tribe that you’re doing your part.
“Don`t waste your energy on things you can`t change. Walk away from toxic people and hopeless situations”
4. Inspirational people
When you’re around happy inspirational people that are successful, it makes you feel better, and you get inspired, and if you act on that inspiration your life will be more fulfilled. It’s not just inspirational in terms of financial success but in terms of doing difficult things. Whether it’s running a hundred miles it doesn’t pay you a single penny.
Things other than the wealth of knowledge that you can push yourself to such an extreme or anything else. Whether it’s someone who becomes really good at playing chess or someone really good at martial arts, or whatever it is, there’s a great feeling in overcoming these difficult things.
“Remember that no matter how cool you think you may be, you are not cool enough to look down on anyone…..ever”
5. Time is precious
When you say, I feel sad today, I feel so low, my life is sad, and ask yourself what makes a person happy in life? what can we do to be happy? The truth is my friend, life is never in a constant state all the time. If you realize the importance of time, you will come out of those uncomfortable feelings with this newfound “appreciation for the time”. So, this newfound, this respect for your own existence in your own space, is something really precious.
“Time is free, but it`s priceless. You can`t own it, but you can use it. Once you`ve lost it you can never get it back”
6. Struggle
What can I do to have joy? that all come from life lessons, and the lessons are learned through struggle. I think there’s a lot of people out there that think somehow you’re going to get to someplace where you’re living in silk sheets, and you’re getting your toes done, while someone’s dropping grapes into your mouth.
I don’t want that, I’ve never wanted that, that guy’s not going to be happy, he’s going to be a boring hour into the grapes, you can get those grapes away from me, stop painting my toes, what am I doing in this bed I got to do something I’m not stimulated.
“Every struggle in your life has shaped you into a person you are today. So be thankful for the hard times, they can only make you stronger”
7. Constant stimulation
The human organism, the animal that we are needs constant stimulation because it evolved trying to find food, escape enemies, and find shelter. It also escapes the elements, try to survive, and this great joy that you have in taking care of your children. So you can protect your children from the elements, and the enemies, and feed them.
“Comfort is a Drug. Once you get used to it, it become addicting. Give a weak man good food, cheap entertainment, and he`ll throw his ambitions right out of the window”
8. Sadness
It is also the great sadness that you see in losers. When I see a loser I see some guy who’s 43 years old lives in his parent’s basement. He hates the world, just like a baby man. This is a baby that somebody just gave some nutrients, whether these nutrients are in the forms of food, or in the form of thoughts, ideas, examples.
This kid developed these horrible self-defeating patterns of behavior. This behavior led them to this point where this middle-aged person with no future, and no idea of how to get out of this rut, and probably never will escape it.
“If worries can cure your sickness, then go ahead and worry! If worries can prolong your life, then go ahead and worry! If worries can exchange for happiness, then go ahead and worry!”
9. Meditation
Yoga is one of the best joy, and happiness meditation, and its little tough (not that much). But through that struggle, you will have a better day, and you better do it again tomorrow, or do something else. If you just think that tomorrow I am just going to the coast, eat chocolate, and watch TV, well there comes sadness, and my old friend, depression.
“Sometimes God lets our life fall apart, so we can finally let him help us rebuild it in a more beautiful way”
Three happiness killers
Why is it so difficult to be happy? Well, I can think of several reasons why it might be tough.
1. First we’re around people every single day that aren’t happy, and want to make us the same way. So, through their pessimism, their glumness they try to pull us into their mire, and it’s tough not to get sucked in. I’ve learned to see those people as teachers who are sent to show us that no one can affect our happiness unless we choose to allow them to.
2. The issue of our vocabulary. Through the daily stresses of life we get sucked into saying things like well I can’t do , or I never could, or I wouldn`t or shouldn’t, and we’ve reached these limitations that we’ve argued for so vocally.
“Comparison is the killer of all joy, take time out from social media and reconnect to you`re true existence”
3. Finally they’re just belief that happiness is somewhere else sometimes. Like if we just had this, a bigger home, more income, then we’d really be happy. But if we can choose to find whatever we have in our lives be grateful for, and happy about, then amazingly enough happiness tends to find us.
“Stop asking where can I find happiness in life? Happiness is within yourself, it lives inside you”
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Conclusion
Happiness is making others smile. Love breeds happiness. It is important to be self aware, to know the things that you enjoy doing, the things you are good at. Don`t be afraid to do anything if you feel that it is the right thing.
Always remember that nothing lasts forever, bad time comes, and bad time goes. See yourself in the mirror, and ask yourself do I really want to be happy in the future? are you a strong person? (which we all are from inside really) or are you that ki